Author: Jiki Dedel
When someone mentions the word “feminist”, what comes into your mind?
Is it the strong, independent women like Mary Wollstonecraft, Elizabeth Stanton, and Susan B. Anthony, who all raised the concerns of young women and helped shed light on gender discrimination?
Or is it the overweight, ever-obnoxious, troublesome women in their mid-30’s announcing their dread for men by going nude to the public?
In my experience, most will probably visualize the latter description and make a loud burst of laughter for their display of stupidity. They all seem to adhere to media-fabricated feminist stereotypes such as bra-burners, super sensitive, man-hating she-devils. Now, have you ever wondered why that is?
In this blog, I will attempt to enumerate a few stigmas regarding feminism and discuss why they are unequivocally false. Let’s give them a shot of redemption, shall we?
- Feminists Hate Men
No, no, no, no, and no. Feminism isn’t about hating men. Whenever people find out I am a feminist, they ask, “So you hate men?” Obviously, I don’t. My intention is to advocate women’s rights, and whoever violates those – regardless of gender – is an enemy of mine. Take for example a woman human trafficker who sends girls to awful environments. Feminism should have little to even do with men. By definition, feminism is the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men. It’s all about equality here, folks. NOT. GENDER.
For instance, let’s relate this in the household context. One child is getting more toys than the other. Doesn’t seem fair, right? Now, some kids would normally feel upset and complain, while others bring it a step too far by also getting angry at their sibling. That’s feminism in a nutshell. There are feminists who are misandrists, but they don’t speak for the majority.
Also, has anyone noticed a reoccurring theme in LGBTQ+ and #BlackLivesMatter? Yeah, it’s when people assume we hate another social group for pushing social equality. For the very last time, we do not. I could go on and on and list a bunch of situations that could further prove my point, but that’s another story for another post.
- Feminists Want to Overthrow Men
Feminists aren’t plotting world domination in a grandmother’s garage, no. As mentioned in the previous paragraph, feminists are only concerned with equality. We envision a society that is free of domination. With that said, I want to clear things up: no one should overpower someone just because of their gender. A man shouldn’t make decisions for the family just because he’s a man, nor should it be okay for a woman to hit a man just because he’s a woman. If you still don’t get it, (or it’s just you chose to ignore it), then here’s Thanos for you:
Anyone who claims otherwise clearly just doesn’t want to understand feminism. It’s the wilful ignorance that causes this ridiculous ideology to come alive.
3. Feminists can’t take a joke
There are a handful of jokes about women that are acceptable and funny. It’s when people start to go beyond the boundaries and begin to make offensive puns that obviously are just a pathetic attempt to cover a bigoted remark. That, my friends, is the time when the joke is no longer funny.
The truth anti-feminists seem to deny is that we’re just like any other people. We laugh at jokes, we make jokes, and we have some fun. We’re not always out there crying for social justice. But we try to fight for it whenever it’s appropriate. Try to say a really offensive term in a humorous manner against black people and they will get upset. You don’t expect us to not do the same when you say sexually offensive jokes, don’t you?
In short, highly offensive jokes are a no-no. See the underlined word? There’s a little gray area between dark humor and just being a straight up asshole.
- Feminists Are Against Feminine Activities
Another misconception is that feminists hate traditional feminine activities such as shaving, doing chores, wearing dresses, putting on makeup, raising children, etc. However, feminism is about encouraging women to do whatever they please without societal lash back. Choosing to be a housewife should be the same as choosing to be an engineer, or CEO, or doctor. Some “feminists” claim staying at home and raising children is oppressive. These people are not real feminists. I’m a feminist and I love wearing makeup and dresses. However, I respect some women’s choice to not wear makeup or dresses. Feminism is about the freedom to choose and not criticizing other women for making different choices.
- Only Women are Feminists
Again, another lousy mentality. A straight person can support LGBTQ+, a white person can support #BlackLivesMatter, and a guy can support feminism. These are the people who have fully comprehended the nature of the movement without bias and judgment. There are plenty of artists who claimed they are feminists, and a few feminist protests have been carried out by men.
The word feminist will always stand for the idea of equality. Identifying as a feminist should not be viewed as an ordinary trend that makes a person look edgy and unique. Feminism is knowing that the oppression of any group is not moral. A person does not have to be a radicalized woman to be a feminist, but rather any man and woman who wishes to instate change through gender and racial equality.